Beckett Fowl wrote:Heavens no. Maturity is based on experience, and the property to respond to situations in an appropriate manner through reason rather than impulse. It is a matter of the environment that you grow up in and the moral and ethical teachings you have been subjected to that dictates your maturity. The myth that girls are born with more maturity than guys is hogwash. You learn through experience and wisdom, and your past directly regulates your responses to different situations. So my answer, psychologically speaking, is no, unless every girl ever born into existance has been taught from birth to be more mature than men, and men are nothing more than a ludicrous parcel of driveling galoots.
My counter to that- well first of all I think that you, no doubt think that you yourself are very mature. And
you think, in a way that pisses so many people off, that drowning your vocabulary with unnessacary words is a good way to convey your maturity. This makes you sound pompous so please I advise that if you ever want people's respect- you won't do it.
Actually, his language isn't that pompous. There is a good point. People gain maturity through life experience.
Boys find it much harder to understand matters that affect the opposite sex. For example: On msn last week there was this group conversation and the other girl and I started having this looong discussion about our periods and blah blah blah (like how some people only get theirs every three or six months- UNFAIR)- the male is silent for the entire conversation. then the subject shifts to boobs (don't ask why it just did) and immediatley he perks up and starts yapping away and making crude statements.
There's two things to consider. What contribution to that discussion do you think he could provide? Why would he have an important opinion on a girl's period? Would you have important things to say if boys talked about erections?
Second; boys are often made fun of or harassed by girls for trying to share such opinions.
Girls act more serious than boys, but boys know that having fun and being silly doesn't mean you're immature.
To me, I don't consider long conversations about boobs or periods very mature. What about the world. What about discussing things you can do to make the world better. What about history, new technology and progress. I find boys take an interest in those topics that move society forward much earlier than girls. Is talking about history so much less mature than talking about periods. Perhaps most the great inventors were men, because males are more interested in innovation and thanks to innovation you have TVs, computers, the internet, etc, etc, etc.
We often only look at the things that girls develop earlier and base our opinion of maturity on those, but we our often attacked as being sexist if we try to point out the qualities that males develop earlier like; creativity, innovation, diplomacy, logic, curiosity. If those qualities were seen as signs of maturity than boys would fare much better.
When I was working as a substitute teacher I often found the female principles were quick to attack if they didn't like what a teacher did, while the male principles were more willing to talk things over and see where people were coming from.
In short, I don't think either group matures faster, I think they mature in different ways. I just find it sad that so many men see the value in women, but so many women don't appreciate what men do and what men have to offer. Please take a little time to recognize what males have to offer instead of being so quick to judge them as inferior because they're not like females. I certainly won't ever date a woman that can't appreciate men.
As far as prejudice and homophobia, in my experience it's a toss up. It's about half and half.