sharkie wrote:You should care, because being likable is what'll get you in life.
Yeah, you're qualified and all that jazz. But I've been told for ages that it's the interview that will count.
So you may be mega smart, but in a world where EVERYONE is getting qualifications now, the one who is awkard, smelly, or just a dickhead is the one who probably won't get the job.
Believe it or not, if the majority thinks your a wierdo, chances are there is something slightly wrong with your personality.
I'm not saying you should try and change- dye your hair blonde or get a tan. I'm saying don't take the attitude 'people don't like me so I'm UNIQUE'- maybe just try and dampen your most annoying aspects like...
Do you constantly talk about anime? Or japan? IRL, STOP IT
Because you know what, no matter how shallow it seems, you should care about what people think. Because you aren't the one who owns that big company you want a job in.
People think I'm weird, but there's nothing wrong with me. It's just that I'm different from the others. I don't think what they think, and I see the world differently to them.
I agree with dampening your annoying aspects, but if people think your weird doesn't mean you are. Some people at my school think I'm a lesibian, but it doesn't mean I am. I know that is a different circumstance but it follows the same logic.
Personally, I REALLY don't care if people think I'm a sad little geek, ugly, annoying, or whatever they think because at least I'm me. I'm good with being me.
I've been teased about being ginger for ages now, but I recently stopped dying my hair brown because I thought "Stuff this. I am sick of dying it."
I stopped caring what others would say. And d'you know what? I came up with cut-down witty comments to there hair insults, and it stopped.
So maybe not caring what people think and realising there is nothing wrong with you just the way you are is a good thing. Don't bury your head in the sand.
bentj96 wrote:The problem with caring sometimes, is when it goes over board. When you destroy your own person to fit that of others.
I agree. I hate people like that - I know a lot of them.
bentj96 wrote:You should care only to the point that you don't stick out as some sort of nerd or weirdo. So basically you care to a point that makes you some what normal.
Would you like a digger to make your digging of your own grave quicker? I stick out. I am that nerd and weirdo. And OK with it. I'm happy with who I am, and I'm not changing a thing about me. I have friends who like me for who I am. Everything I am. I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I'm not. After all, having to change yourself to get friends is pathetic. These people who fake themselves for friends tell me I'm
the loser! They need to get some perspecive! I'm not the one having to change myself so someone will like me! They're the weirdos, in the end. People like me are a genuine people. I wish everyone could just be themselves. It's awful to think others change just because of what others think. Stuff 'em. Not everybody will like you. Face it. But some will. I dunno. Society today is so sad.