Purple_Enigma wrote:I agree it is wrong, but how can you decide what is right or wrong on your own? Especially teenagers, with their I don't give a (insert any swear here) attitude would never bother considering what a teacher tells them. Okay,a teacher is different and you might argue saying teachers are nearly always right or something so you should listen, but friends? I was talking to one of my friends and he even admitted to me that he drinks only because of peer pressure. I told him not to, but he won't listen. Probably because my principles never got me anywhere in the popularity department. But I'm still friends with a lot of popular people and you have to admit they're principles are a bit like what you've said above. They don't care, they won't change their opinions or values because of what a teacher says or what any non-popular student says. And generally popular people have the same set of morals. Don't care what others think. Be your own person. So even if they advise others it's not going to be for their benefit. They apply this SO wrongly so I think this concept has a few holes in it. They don't know who they want to be. They know what they want to be- popular. Instead of being who they want to be, they try to be what they want to be and eventually that's who they become. I can't find a trace of my old friends in some of the popular people currently, so I stay away from them. Because they changed themselves completely which is WRONG, but now they refuse to change themselves saying they have a right to be who they want to be.
That's what really upsets me. When people comform to peer pressure. It's so sad, I could cry. They have the right to, but it's still wrong to change yourself. However, all this stupid teen culture with "popular" (gimme a break
) kids has made life in High Schools horrible for some. I wish so badly others wouldn't change themselves. They hate themselves and think what they believe and do is wrong, so change. It's awful. Sadly, there is nothing anyone can do about it.
Defeatist attitude much, Heiki?
Of COURSE there is something everyone can do about it. It's just a matter of trying to make a difference, actually going out there and doing something. The problem is not CAN'T, but WON'T.
Peer pressure is always seen as a bad thing. Peer pressure can also be positive- peer pressure to put more effort into study, peer pressure to quit smoking, doing drugs or other bad habits.
But it's when peer pressure becomes negative that the problems start.
We all know the stories of people starving and becoming extremely sick from trying to become as "hot" as everyone else, and people cutting and suchlike because they aren't the same as everyone else. For example, every 18 minutes, someone commits suicide. And according to The Happiness Trap
by Dr Rolf Harris, 1 out of every 2 people seriously consider suicide, and 1 out of every 10 people actually attempt it. A large, large amount of these victims were pushed to breaking point through what other people think of them, and what that leads them to think of themselves.
So there has to be a middle ground, in my opinion.
Yes, you should care about what others think, in order to make yourself a better individual and have friends and life companions. But it should not be to the extent that you feel worthless if you have no friends. Not the extent that you feel you could end it. I don't believe anyone should have to feel that agony.