Lime Yay wrote:So being forward as a man means molesting women, and being forward as a woman means making small talk at every given opportunity? Lol. If you think it's too forward for a woman to initiate conversation, how would you feel if she grabbed your crotch?
Honestly, I don't think groping a woman can ever work. I mean, I suppose maybe you could date in spite of this, but never because of it. I'm not saying that she'll think you're disgusting, but if she appreciates it, it's because she thinks of you as a sex object, too.
I have a boyfriend. I feel like maybe I could give advice, but I have a friend who has only been on the dates I've set her up on, and never a boyfriend. If I could give good advice, she wouldn't be single right now. I fail as a mentor.
Antilles wrote:Don't have a girlfriend, never have. I tried route 2 once because I thought it seemed the best way to go about it while things were still unsure, and landed square in the Friend Zone. Route 3 doesn't fit me at all, and Route 1 only works if you have all the luck o' the Irish. Your mileage may vary, though.
In short, I suck at this, and have no valuable input.
Sorcha wrote:Yeah the best way is to get to know them before trying anything (so you know what you're potentially getting into). I think the forward way does work for some people; a very particular type of person but not to the point of going around groping people .
I've only been in the one relationship, and I've known him since I was a kid. We only got to the talking/getting to know each other stage after literally years of ignoring each other with the occassional insult thrown in (that's another thing, apparently if you like someone you let them know by being as mean to them as possible?)
Me: Yo, Somalian/Arabic girl - translate some of this song for me.
Girl: lmao, i love this song! butttt...i can't help you. pwahaha!
Me: ....What are you good for?
Girl: i know you don't mean that. XD
1. To use charm, wit, humor, or other means to verbally let a female know that you are interested in her.
3. Meaning trying to "win"/flirt over ones attention or trying to get to know one better intimately,being attracted to one and try to let them know that.
Oh yeah, one of the mysteries of my freshman year. If you remember, I told you a story of how I suck at dancing and a girl asked me to dance for the first time, and you said you heard the same from Kristen ____. What exactly did she say about me? Please tell lol!
Haha, how'd you randomly think about that now? Lol. Idk, i dont remember exactly what she said, i think we were talking about the type of guys we like, and she mentioned that she likes black guys that cant really dance. and then she said she went to a frat party and danced with some guy like that : P
Lime Yay wrote:I agree with Kitsy, I would talk to the guy I like. What else can a woman do to improve her chances? Men pick and choose what women they want, and women only say yes or no. That's so inefficient. And, if I was studying in a hall with people I knew I would feel OBLIGATED to invite them along, actually. Are you sure she liked you? And just because you knew does that mean she was throwing herself at you? How can people ever date if they're not sure if the other likes them? A complete shot in the dark? When my boyfriend and I started dating, we knew we liked each other. Everyone else knew it, too.
As you said, ignoring someone you like does not work.
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